I know I am not the only woman in the world that feels like her husband doesn't listen to a word she says, so everyone should be able to relate to this blog entry.
I also know that every marriage has its problems, but I am just going to rant and rave about some things and you can read them or not.
Josh always says we need to talk more. He just wants us to talk about anything and everything. This should be a good thing, right? A step in the right direction...but nothing is ever that easy. Here lately, we will be talking about whatever comes to mind and that will remind me of something else...so, naturally, I will tell him about it. He shuts off. Like someone flicks off a light switch. He won't answer me, he starts doing something else, completely ignoring me. I stop talking, sometimes not even finishing what I was saying, and there is a long awkward silence (unless Gabriel is around, in which case, we usually get distracted by him).
But, the first time it happened, it completely threw me off. I asked, "Honey, did you hear me?" and his reply was, "Uh huh." without even looking at me. It made me mad. I thought maybe he just got distracted by something else...but the more he does it, the madder I get. I know, that isn't the right thing to do, but there isn't a whole lot else I can do. It is so frustrating. It happens at least once a night. I have just cut down on what I tell him so that he can't blow me off as many times.
Now, I know he is tired. He has been working basically non stop for a while now. But when I am tired and someone says something to me that I don't hear, I usually say, "I'm sorry, I zoned out, what did you say?" and then I really try to pay attention to what they are telling me. I don't think he is like this because he is just tired. It is like he just could really care less about what I am telling him.
How would you guys react to this? What should I do the next time this happens? Am I completely overreacting about this?? Help!
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